So, I was thinking the other day about how many of us just want to be so much, have so much, and become so much. That goal always seems so far off from where we are today. Sometimes I tell myself that I can see the finish line, but often I forget that in order to get there I must continuously improve from where I am today. Living the best version of yourself doesn’t start at the finish line. Instead, it begins right here, right now.
Remember diamonds take years and tons of pressure to become the brilliant, rare, beautifully faceted gems that they are when we harvest them. Like wise precious metals take a refiner’s fire to become pure and untainted. Even the pearl has to go through years of process to become the precious commodity it is. Just as they become precious commodities in their time so do we. The process is just as important as the goal. Never forget that. But live your best version of yourself daily and you will eventually get there.
Peace, blessings and grace to you on your journey.
Abundance Principle #8 is MEATY! JUICY!!! GOOD!!!!
I started teaching on the abundance principles a while ago and I’m finally at the point of finishing up. Principle number eight is so good!!!! I just had to share it with you. You may need to watch this one a couple of times because it has LOTS of information; but it is such GREAT information! Grasping the abundance principles will change your life!
http://youtu.be/H6BzZ6kVap8
Speaking To The Shadows Of Your Mind
How do you handle the thoughts that govern your life? Here’s my views on dealing with the negativity.
Speaking To The Little Girl Gave Me Strength In My Womanhood
So, yesterday I grew a little bit. I actually changed and I knew that the change happened. My guy moved out; not because we were fighting or we didn’t love each other. Not because we are breaking up or ending anything, but because it was just time. Him moving out opened up old wounds that I didn’t know I had. Wounds from before I went to kindergarten. Yes… Pre-K!
We had discussed it. I was partially prepared, but it still seemed unexpected. I came home and some of his things were gone. That’s what triggered it and I recognized it. I’m not sure why, but this time, it all came rushing back and I was overwhelmingly lonely and alone. First, the tears, then the shaking, then the fear and, last but not least … the feeling of ‘He left me all alone’. It was at that moment I recognized that space for what it really was. I realized that I was, in that moment, a little 4-year-old girl who didn’t understand why her daddy left her all alone. See, when I was 4 we came home from church and all of our furniture was gone, and so was my Daddy. That was the first time that I felt the feelings that have become so familiar. So I began seeking what I longed for (Love, acceptance, re-assurance, security, protection) not only with men I had relationships with, but men I befriended. They say that girls have ‘daddy issues’ if their fathers aren’t in their lives. Last night it became clear that I am no exception.
As I talked to that little girl and replayed the scenes from my life, I realized that I have been seeking for as long as I can remember. It’s why I hold on tight and why I cry so hard and long for my man so much after the relationship is over. But last night I had a talk with my four-year-old self. I spent time loving her and letting her know that she’s okay even though that daddy didn’t come back. I let her know that the men that I date are not daddy and they can’t give me what I missed by daddy leaving.
Spent 30 minutes in that mirror speaking to that little girl getting her to understand that we are safe, and that even though daddy did not do his job, we are okay. It was the most powerful breakthrough I’ve ever had in my life. I went from tears and shaking to totally being okay and not even feeling like I needed to cry anymore. I literally transitioned from being afraid and insecure and feeling alone to being settled and secure. Just talking to myself in a space of duality – as the 44-year-old woman, loving her 4-year-old self, I created a healing bridge and stopped my tears. I slept all night without waking once because he’s not here. This morning, I woke up refreshed and clear inside. It’s like somebody turned on the light and I can see more clearly than I could before. It is amazing.
I am stronger now because I gave myself permission to be that 4-year-old again, and walked myself into my womanhood with strength and power by making that little girl feel secure. I’m so amazed and grateful.
Abundance Principle #2
I thought I would go back and share with you a few videos in the Abundance Principles Series that I’m doing on YouTube. I really enjoyed Principle #2. It’s a very meaty principle that is so rich and beautiful when it’s broken down and the words are directed.
http://youtu.be/gxMMyTZ6huE
Do I REALLY Understand The Concept Of Abundance
I started on a journey a few days ago trying to be sure I understand all the Universal Laws and Principles that govern this world. Of course, because I grew up in the church I do have some laws down like the Law of Reciprocity. I get that I will reap (or receive back) that which I sow ( or put out). It’s the same thing as karma, or the old saying what goes around comes around.
However, I’ve been studying for my enrichment the Principles of Abundance and I’m finding out things that are truly helping to shape my future and solidify my present understanding. I will share with you all of the 10 principles after I’ve done the entire series, but I couldn’t wait to talk about today’s principle – principle #4 – because it is TRULY Juicy!!!
http://youtu.be/0Rz3Uv-uuRc
Abundance Principle #4 reads:
Through my consciousness of my God-Self, The Christ within, as my source, I draw into my mind and feeling nature the very substance of Spirit. This substance is my supply, this my consciousness of the Presence Of God within is my supply.
My breakdown of this principle is so juicy that it took a while to flush it out on the YouTube video, but I got it!
My interpretation is as follows:
Through my internal knowledge or awareness of the part of me that is spirit, eternal which never dies and is always connected to and in unity with infinite intelligence; the Devine presence within that enlightens me and guides my soul – the source of my ethical and moral actions and motives; as the place where things originate from, I bring into and towards my intellect and understanding and the part of me which feels both negative and positive emotions the actual matter that makes up the force or principle that animates the body. This matter is my provision for what is lacking or necessary. Thus, my internal knowledge of the Supreme Being’s Spirit which is always present inside of me is my provision for all of my necessity.
I told you it was juicy!!! Say that 3 times fast! HA!!! I know it was Meaty! I know! Just give yourself a moment to get it. Re-write this principle in your own words if you need to. Watch the YouTube because I really give great explanation there! As I learn and grow, I will share more but I couldn’t wait to share this!
Be brilliant and live in abundance!
Analyzing Your Influences
I was thinking the other day about the things that influence me. I was mulling over my beliefs and the decisions I make; considering the things in the past that have caused me to feel inadequate or ill-equipped for a specific task or goal. You know, the voice in your head that says “I can’t do that!” or “Oh! That’s too hard!” or even “I’m not ready for that.”. In all my years, I’d never taken the time to figure out WHY I think or say those things to myself. I figured it out when I asked myself a few months ago and it has truly changed my life.
So, why DO we let the thoughts of ‘I can’t… ‘ come in and rule our beliefs and create our actions? Simple, outside long-time influences create our beliefs, truths, and therefore our actions. In other words, it’s learned behavior.
When I set out to analyze it I asked myself three questions:
- Why do I believe this?
- Where did that belief come from?
- If it’s NOT my belief, what do I believe?
What I found was ASTONISHING!!! When I answered the first question, I said… ‘OMG!!! I… I … I don’t!!!’ WOW!!! What a game changer! So if I honestly DIDN’T believe it why was I saying it to myself? I looked a little deeper and asked myself the next question, ‘So, if I don’t REALLY believe this, WHERE did it come from?’.
Pondering and mulling it over, I finally figured it out!!! I found that it was an IMPARTED MESSAGE from a great influencer in my life. The person was very close to me and they have lots of life limiting thoughts and fears that THEY live by. Because they’ve been such an overall life shaping influence their ideologies have been imparted to me through various modes of communication. HA!!! It wasn’t even MY belief! Oh MAN! This is HUGE!!!
So, now I’ve gotta understand and hear my own voice on the matter, because if I don’t believe it and its stopping my progress in my life’s mission, I need to listen to myself differently and truly hear my OWN voice. So now I ask myself the questions in list order including the last question. “Do I believe this ‘no’; where did it come from ‘ influencer’; so… What do I believe?… ‘I believe I really can do …’.” To make sure I get all my answer formulated in truth, I also couple it with scripture (I am a Christian). I do this to make it true by God’s Laws instead of my own. Finally, I translate it into a new truth and Voila! I’m ready to go do it! The belief that I held on to for so long has become a lie, and invalid in my mind.
Wait! That’s not to say that the beliefs and fears don’t come back in other areas, or show up again in the same area. I know that’s not necessarily the way it ends. Because they are LIFE LONG influencers, what they say may always be some part of my thought process and belief system. Well, at least until the new truth is ingrained in my subconscious as irrefutable. The difference is now, I’m not held captive to them as they direct my steps. Because of that, I know that the goals I’ve set and the tasks that I must do will happen on my terms because I said so. My task now is to continuously keep my truth in line with my destiny.
BUSTING the LIE of Incompletion
Yesterday, I busted the lie of incompletion wide open! The truth is, we are complete!
Lessons Learned From Jim Rohn
As we begin the fall season, I think about Jim Rohn’s advice, “… Learn how to reap in the fall without apology. Without apology if you’ve done well. Without complaint if you have not. …”. That is such a powerful way of thinking about the life we live. It makes us recognize that every life has seasons; summer (when everything is beautiful and going well), winter (the hard times of life), spring (times of promise and opportunity – the places of sewing and planting), and fall (harvest time for the things we’ve planted – things we live off of now, store up for later, and stash for emergency and hard times).
Taking the seasons of life and breaking theme down like that makes me remember all the times of fall for my life when I had nothing to reap because I hadn’t planted or cultivated for my future. Oh how I used to lament during the rough winters! Bills due, hinge needing to be done that couldn’t be done. There were many, many moments of living the coulda, woulda, shoulda mantra out. I would replay the things I could have done differently over and over again. Well, I did that replay until the day I said – it doesn’t matter what I did that got me here. I’m here so what next? How do I not be here next time?
http://youtu.be/UIBRBgNKArg
One day it hit me. My life is my responsibility. If it isn’t going well, I need to fix it. I realized that planning and caring for my life is a … science. There is a formula that works to bring the things I want into my life. If I don’t apply the science, I won’t receive the desired result. I remember creating my first Life Map, wondering if it will work. Hoping for something different next fall. Then I remember the moment of pride from creating, sticking to maintaining my goal! I realized that the complaining in the fall doesn’t make the reaping any easier. Doesn’t make the dead or insufficient harvest any more alive or sufficient. The formula of planning and execution makes the rest of it all work so smoothly.
The truth is, the seasons of life change. We must learn to be fully responsible for the life we live. We have to be okay with what we reap and learn from those places where we haven’t done our parts. Jim called taking responsibility for want happens to us the best of human maturity. He said , “… I’m not saying its easy. I’m saying its the best.” Live daily trying – striving to be your best. Truthfully, the only thing one can do is learn from the past, live for now, and become responsible for the coming future.
Stop Crying Over The Spilled Milk Of Your Life – No Regrets
Yesterday I hit a bump in the life map that made me begin to reflect on my past decisions and I (with my positive, Polly Anna, Glass Half Full self) began to feel myself crying over spilled milk.
I have always loved Real Estate. Investing, Selling, Buying, Flipping, EVERYTHING about it makes me so Über intrigued! So… this semester I made the commitment that I’m going to get my license in California; not just ANY license, my BROKER’s license. I’m humming along in class, reading the books, studying and … BANG I find out that the requirements have changed and I can’t get a CA Broker’s License in less than 1 year anymore. BOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! They changed the requirements, so it’s gonna take me TWICE as long! I say again… BBBOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Now, mind you, I’ve paid for this course already and just didn’t complete it. I have the books, the CD’s, and all the supplemental materials. Last year I could have done it according to my original plan. I should also say that I’ve had this plan for almost five years now. Yes, since BEFORE I moved from Detroit. So what stopped me? Mainly procrastination and fear – but also life shifts.
Monetarily I estimate that I’ll forego about $200-400K because I didn’t get my license last year and probably twice that if I count all the way back to my plans starting with the move from Detroit. It was this moment when… I began to cry over the spilled milk. All the procrastination and fear have kept me from, my books, my classes, my speaking, my coaching, travel, career choices and the list goes on and on. Then I realized that our life journey isn’t just about the moments lost and the things we accomplish. Life is a series of lessons.
We learn and grow in “ages and stages” as my Granny used to say. What doesn’t fit for us today may fit for us tomorrow. Likewise, what we are doing now, we might not have been fully equipped for yesterday. We learn and grow in as we go along, and it’s our job to learn the lessons and keep moving to the goal. Crying over spilled milk breeds regret, and keeps your focus stuck on the past. So what do we do?
- Dry Your Tears – The milk is already spilled. Look at it. It’s all over the floor.
- Forgive Yourself – You are human and we all make mistakes. It’s not the end of the world. Life does go on. Give yourself a break.
- Decide how you should handle it – What’s the best next step from here? Most often we want to go back in time and change the outcome. That’s month realistic. I mean, can you put it back in the container? Not without concerted efforts…and are your efforts best spent focused on the task of recapturing the milk and working so hard to get it back where it was? Even with all your efforts you’ll never recapture all the milk because its just not possible. Think about it, evaporation, floor cracks, the towel or sponge you use I will all retain a part of the milk. You can’t get it all.
- Learn – YES! Learn what you did to spill the milk in the first place and try not to repeat it in your future.
- Clean it up – Do what you have to to clean up the situation and move on from there. Just because you can’t recapture the milk doesn’t mean you don’t clean up the spill.
- Recognize – Recognize that sometimes when we THINK we’re ready for something were NOT. Sometimes we have to live through a few things in order to truly be ready for what we want.
- Let It Go – It’s just that simple… Just let it go.
So, I learned to stop crying over the spilled milk in my past. The if I coulda, shoulda, woulda moments that cause me to pause from my pace on the journey. I’ve learned to be grateful for every step of the process of becoming the best version of myself. So, no more tears. When you find yourself crying over the spilled milk in your life, remember we live our lives through “Ages and Stages”. That’s what my Granny called it.
